The Second Date Kiss – 5 Easy Steps to Guarantee One!
If you’ve got this far then you’re probably hoping to move things up a notch with a second date kiss. The issue you face is that you want to make sure it’s a welcome advance so that she doesn’t reject it. This is where I come in to give you 5 simple pointers to make sure she’s definitely ready for it.
Before we go on, if you’ve read my first date guide or my article on being more chivalrous then you’ll know that I’m a traditional kind of guy. I take values seriously and so kissing or having sex on a first date really isn’t my style at all. For me, dating is about finding a potential life partner, and that shouldn’t be taken lightly.
Because of the above, I prefer to wait until the 2nd date to make a move for the first kiss. I think it adds to the displays of chivalry and shows that I am a gentleman, and let me tell you, women love that in a guy!
How to Secure That Second Date Kiss
There are five steps you can take to make sure that she’s as keen to have that second date kiss as you are. Here goes!
Relax
First thing’s first, you can’t be yourself if you have high levels of stress or nervousness about being on a date. Remember the first date? Yeah? Well, that went well champ and she’s agreed to go on another one with you. Remember that. That means she likes you too.
Don’t let nerves get the better of you and spoil your chances. Working yourself up into a frenzy is doing nothing good for you. So chill out, safe in the knowledge that most of the hard work was done on the first date.
Make Her Laugh
Sounds easy enough… right?
You don’t have to spend the whole date trying to tell really bad jokes to make her laugh. If you’ve taken her on any of these 2nd dates then you’ll be having fun and potentially making a fool of yourself in the process. This all counts!
Laughing is proven to release endorphins, a chemical given off by the brain which creates a state of ecstasy in the human body.
Is short, laughing = happiness and happiness = a greater chance of her wanting to kiss you 😉
Pay Attention to What She is Saying
Make her feel like you are interested in her, not as some kind of deception though, ACTUALLY be interested in her. Listen to the things that she’s saying and the tone she uses when saying them, these are key indicators as to her feelings about a given subject. Ask more exploratory questions about the things that are interesting to you or that she speaks passionately of.
It goes without saying but leave your cell phone in your pocket, preferably off but at the very least it should be on silent/quiet mode. Checking your social media or responding to texts are a massive turn off and doing so will likely mean kissing goodbye to that, err, first kiss.
Compliment Her
I touched on this in my first dates guide and it’ll probably be mentioned in any article I write that is giving you advice on how to act around women. Tell her she looks nice, and mean it. You’ve chosen to ask her out for a 2nd date and that means you find her attractive and want to get to know her more.
The key here is to be sincere. Compliments on her appearance should come as soon as you meet up for instance. You can’t go dropping that in towards the end, she’ll have already put a black mark against your name for not noticing the effort she’s made!
Compliments don’t have to be all about appearance either, being impressed by things she has done provides a perfect opportunity to tell her just how impressive you find them.
Allow for Some Post-Date Time
This is key, timing is everything for the first kiss. Don’t make plans for immediately after your date as you’re lowering your chances of that kiss if you’re literally rushing to get out the door to meet a friend or something similar.
Once the date draws to a close you can make a suggestion to continue things in a local bar or go for a stroll together (providing you haven’t spent the date in a bar or walking around a park of course!). This additional time gives you the opportunity to work up to the big moment or to do more of the above to make sure that she wants that kiss as much as you do.
There you go, you have the exact recipe to ensure that second date kiss. Go get her cowboy!
Happy Dating,
The Frequent Dater